Invisible Outcast

One time one of my closest friends called me late at night, crying in a taxi. She kept asking me,  “How can someone be so sweet and supportive when you’re at your lowest point, but can’t stand looking at you get better and try everything in their power to ruin that?” I think that this question stuck around for a while with me, as I’m even writing about this. I was so startled to answer her question back then, but if I can go back in time I wish I could’ve told her the following: “A lot of times, it is very easy to support and affirm someone who is at their lowest or at least at a lower place than themselves because they feel sorry for them and want to be sympathetic. It is a lot easier to be nice to someone you feel bad for than someone you think has a better life than them.” It can be very subjective to indicate the righteousness within a friendship , as emotions or personal beliefs aren’t divided into black and white. However, one side of the friendship feeling the need to brin...

Ever heard of the term “ friends with benefits ”? It’s when two individuals form a friendship in expectation of each other’s wants and needs whether that is money, fame, or can even be as simple as to cope with loneliness. However, there are some cases when a friendship is formed with contrasting purposes . More specifically, one side might have formed the friendship purely seeking for someone they can find comfort and kindness with, while the other side has formed the friendship looking for something that will benefit only themselves in secret. We call this situation “ taken advantage of ”, as one person uses the idea of friendship to take over (or use for their own benefit) the other person’s belongings/power without making it seem obvious . For example, I once had a friend who only approached me in a social area with the intention of using the pool at my house. She was only nice to me when she wanted something from me, which can be hard to identify as they make the situatio...