Invisible Outcast

When I first started getting excluded from my friend group, I didn’t exactly have someone to talk to about what it felt like to be an invisible outcast. At first, I told myself that I was just being an overthinker , but the off-putting sense in my head always bothered me every interaction I had with my friends. After being able to heal from these times of my life, I was finally able to see that I was being rejected from a friendship . From this, I was able to create the term “invisible outcast” , defining this feeling of an outsider.  Because being an invisible outcast means that you’re in a situation where you’re being excluded, but not really, but you know you are - it can be challenging to ask for help from another person. What would you say? “Hello, I am being excluded from my friends but we are doing everything that a normal friendship does and we look completely healthy from the outside.”  People say when two people share a commonality about trauma or a negative emotio...

If you feel like you’re an invisible outcast, or just without a bond within your friend group in general, I bet that you can relate to this picture above.  Have you ever just scrolled through social media in your bed and found out that people who are supposed to be your “friends” are having the time of their lives partying without inviting you ?  Even when you ask your friends “oh why didn’t you invite me?” I bet that their responses remain somewhere within “oh you always say no to this stuff!” or “You’re always so busy”. Maybe they aren’t wrong, but an invitation would’ve been nice at least, right? If you have been feeling that maybe this is one way your friends are trying to avoid you and passively exclude you from whatever bonding that’s happening within themselves, the chances are you’re probably right. T his type of passive exclusion* in friendships is much more common in real-life applications than you would imagine. I have had this happen all the time! I used to sul...

  If you don’t know the original meme that I referenced for this blog... you’re DEFINITELY missing out.   If you’re introverted like me, you’ve definitely been in a situation where you just can’t find the right time to join an active conversation . Matter of fact, what would you even say when you did find the perfect timing? “So.. the sky’s really blue today..!” Yeah. That would instantly kill any conversation.  And because of this I sometimes find myself fading away from a conversation like every classic 80s song.   A lot of people can probably agree if I said that I have trouble trying to include myself in a conversation, even if it’s with people I’ve known for a long time. But sometimes people can misinterpret this as you are always thinking about something important. There were many times when my friends thought I was in a deep debate with myself because I wasn’t talking back or laughing in a conversation when I was actually just too focused on trying to "say s...